I was asked to write a blogg about why “Men equate love with giving gifts (also used for fake apologies), while Women equate love by cooking and cleaning”. Sorry it took so long for me to write about it, but I’m writing about it now. I don’t personally think gifts equal love, but I could understand how a man may think gifts are an equal way of showing love. First of all real men are givers by nature so anything that he could give to his significant other may make him feel as if he is showing her some form of love. Note that I said "real men". When you see the look in your women’s eyes after you have given a present, you can tell that she feels some form of love or affection. Secondly I have never known a female who met a gift that she didn’t like. I’m not trying to be offensive in anyway, but theirs more demand for what a man can do with his pockets then that of a women. Usually you win her over by doing nice things for her. Not necessarily buying gifts, but by taken her out to movies, dinner, or by sending flowers. I do believe that men do more than buy gifts to show love, but it’s usually overlooked when the gifts stop coming in. The first thing your girl would tell you is you don’t do the things you used to do. That’s usually centered around something financial. All of a sudden your jokes aren’t enough anymore. Neither is your charming personality.
Remember the phrases “no romance without finance” or “what have you done for me lately". Independent women of today don’t want a man with less than what they have, even though men still are willing to take a woman with less .Even men who make less money than his girlfriend still end up spending more money showering her with gifts. As far as men using gifts to break the ice in the form of an apology…. that depends on the women. Again something that I’ve never done or at least I don’t think I’ve done consciously. I know men are opportunist and will take advantage of anything that will get him out of a situation. If you are that simple that you can’t see when he is buying your forgiveness than that’s a damn shame. When I am mad at a women the only thing that you can do to resolve the situation is to take responsibility for your part in the situation, no gift can overturn that. I guess that’s what’s makes men and women different huh.
I’m no cave man, but in 2010 women aren’t that big on cooking or cleaning. Even when they stay at home instead of working they are more concerned with proving to you that women don’t have to cook or clean anymore than they are with just taking on a role of some form. I do believe that there are some women who are still willing to cook or clean for their men, but not that many. I know the question was geared towards the women who cook or clean so here we go. Men are big kids; it doesn’t take much to satisfy most of us. Feeding us and taking care the house hold makes a man feel like what he is doing is worth while. We love to feel appreciated and the women in our life who are willing to do those things will inherit man who will go through extreme measures to put a smile on there face.
It’s not just about us being lazy, it’s about appreciation. Real men and note that I said real can’t be bought and since most of us do provide (that’s real men again) instead of gifts we prefer a nice home cooked meal. Give him a sandwhich and some peace while he watches the game and he will probably make you his wife lls.